Living With AUDACITY

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Prince

OUR YOUTH,OUR FUTURE

Let love lead the way

With a promise steadfast and sure

It’s the dawn of a new day

Our glimpse into a brighter future.

Let love pave the way

For our youths,our future

Let love lead the way

In their formative structure.

Let not our youths be despised

Though presently in masks;

These are our eagles in disguise

Discovering their talents is our task.

Let the eagles find their wings

Accessing their greatness where it lies

To enrich others,their treasures they bring

Soaring with pleasure above the skies.

Let courage and confidence rise

As we invest in their lives

We must be willing to pay the price

To see them survive and thrive.

Copyright 2017 by Benjamin Anabaraonye

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OUR WORLD,OUR ENVIRONMENT

Our environment is our entitlement
Nature’s gift to be guarded jealously
Let us seek for our world’s betterment
A better world for you and me.

Nature’s gift to be judiciously harnessed

Our solar,wind and hydro energy

Great and untapped wealth we possess

These vast potentials we begin to see.

Our world is our environment

Our duty is to take good care of it
With discipline,diligence and contentment
Let us take care and keep it fit.

Health is wealth we say
So is an environment free from pollution
A conducive environment is needed every day
We can achieve this through determination.

Let us keep clean our environment
For good health is a priority
Dirtiness is a detriment
Cleanliness is good for you and me.

Copyright 2017 by Benjamin Anabaraonye

This beautiful poem was specially written for our World Environment Day.Feel free to visit my inspirational blog:www.benjypoetry.blogspot.com for more inspirational articles.

The Magic of Mistakes

IF YOU ARE like me who tend to give so much credence to precautionary measures before attempting any task, you most likely are yet to experience the real magic of mistakes.

It doesn’t matter how careful we are, mistakes are just inevitable. 

Often times when I hear myself or others saying something like; “If I had known what I knew now 10 years ago, my life would have been a lot better,” I shrug my shoulders and wave my head.

The truth is, if you hadn’t gone through that experience of 10 years, there’s no way you could have learned what you now know. In retrospect, it is the lessons you learned from the series of mistakes you’d made in those 10 years that has combined together to turn you into the kind of personality you have become today.

There’s a marked difference between the system of learning in our traditional schools and that of the real world. In school, you are thought the lesson before the experience. But in the real world it is the other way round. The lesson is learned via the experience.

This is why mistakes are detested in the world of traditional schooling. In school the more mistakes you make, the less intelligent you are thought to be.

If you are going to thrive in the real world, you must have a different view on mistakes that you had while in school. You must recognize that there’s a clear distinction between “school smarts” and “street smarts”

School smarts does not give room for learning via mistakes because it perceives them as not being smart.

On the contrary, street smarts encourage learning on the go. As King Solomon of Ancient Israel wrote, “Wisdom is found in the street.” In the street, as you make attempts to achieve your goals, you have much freedom to make as many mistakes as possible. For that’s where the magic lies.

Every mistake is a big opportunity for learning. You learn so much more from making mistakes than you could possibly learn from not making one.

Can you remember the frustration you went through as you struggled to learn how to ride a bicycle. While all your friends are busy riding, all you find yourself doing is climbing on the bike this moment and immediately falling off the next. You make mistake after mistake until suddenly, a whole new world opens up to you and you start riding like a pro. That’s the magic of mistakes.

I think I have a quick advice to offer you today.

Since mistakes are inevitable in the real world, don’t work hard at trying to avoid them. Instead work hard at understanding the art of making a mistake and gaining deep insight from it.

At that point where you figure that you’d made a mistake, you may feel upset but the truth is if you are not careful, such feeling will deny you the benefit of enjoying the real magic of the mistake.

If you allow your feelings to rule over your judgments when you make mistakes, you will find yourself exhibiting one or more of the following characters:

1. The Liar: You will hear yourself saying such things as; “Not me, I didn’t do it. No, no, no. I don’t know how it happened. This means lying to yourself about the mistake that you’ve obviously made.

2. The Blamer: You will say things like; “It’s not my fault, she’s the one responsible.” “This wouldn’t have happened had I come from a rich family.” And so on.

3. The Justifier: You will find ways to justify the actions which led to the mistake. You will hear yourself  saying things like; “Well, I didn’t have any other option.” Or “I would have made it if I had more time and money. Or “I had to do it because everyone else was doing it.”

4. The Quitter: You say things like; “I told you that this thing would never work. This is just too hard and it’s probably not worth it after all.” 

5. The Complainer: You will hear yourself uttering words like; “Why me? What have I done? Why is all this happening to me?” Or “I’m finished!” Or “Nothing I do ever works.”

6. The Denier: In this case you tend to bury your head in the sand like the ostrich. That is you deny that the mistake did occur by ignoring it. You hear yourself saying things like; “No, nothing wrong happened. I mean, it’s not that bad. Things are still fine.”

When either of these characters suffice in your moments of mistakes (which evidently is unavoidable), you are most likely going to frustrate the power that’s trapped in them.

This is June. The sixth month of the year and the last month of the first half of 2017. 

You have probably made more mistakes than you’d anticipated before this year began. Perhaps, you’ve tried many things that failed. 

This is what I suggest you do this month:

Throw aside your ill-feelings. Travel the memory lane and bring up those instances where you’d made mistakes. Take responsibility for them. Allow the responsible you to take control of your thinking. 

Instead of lying to yourself or looking for who to blame or complaining or burying your head in the sand, ask yourself this priceless question; “What invaluable lessons can I learn from these series of mistakes? What is it I’m not doing right? What can I do better next time?

Note the lessons down and determine to integrate them in your next line of action whether in your personal or professional life. If you practice this, I assure you, the remaing part of the year will be full of uncommon realities for you.

It will be like magic!

The 3 Essentials for Reaching Your Essence

PART OF BEING human is that we are always inclined towards making progress with our lives one way or the other, 

Even if it means moving in the wrong direction. There’s always that growing need to constantly be, or feel the sense of being in motion.

You want to move forward in your career or business. 

Even if it’s a job, you want to move from a lower position to a higher one, or better still, move from being an employee to becoming an employer.

You just want to constantly feel a sense of motion in your life. You want to wake up every morning knowing deeply within you that you are not where you used to be, that you’ve moved somewhat from HERE to THERE. And that you are probably putting your best foot forward towards a better life.

Three things are essential not only to provide you with this sense of motion but also to ultimately lead you to an expected end.

1. Decide Your PATH

This is so important, and it’s one key that ensures a safe landing for you in the end. 

Where are you going? What do you want out of life? What are your biggest aspirations? What do you want to be when you grow up?

The answer to these questions come in steps:

~ Take your time. Think quietly about your life up to this point. Take days to think quietly. Take weeks, or even months as the case may be.

~ In such moments of quietness ask yourself; “What do I really want out of this gift called life?”

~ Keep asking this question for as long as it takes to get clear about it. Write your thoughts down.

~ Don’t talk to anyone else during these moments, at least until you are certain you know what you think you really want.

2. Develop Your PLAN

Your plan is the blueprint for navigating your path.

At that point when you’ve gotten some light about your true path, the next thing is to seek out a plan that will work BEST for you.

Notice the emphasis. The plan should not only be your own but must be the one that can work BEST for you. A plan may be good but the big question you should ask is; “Will this plan work best for me?”

This plan doesn’t necessarily have to be complex. In fact, it has to be simple for it to be useful. Plan here speaks of action steps, strategies, systems and formulas that are readily applicable for navigating your path.

At this point you are allowed to talk to people, although not just anyone or everyone. 

Talk to people that matter. Talk to people who are ahead of you in the game. Talk to people who are less likely to develop any form of bias about the path you’d chosen for yourself. Talk to professionals. Talk to people who by virtue of their wealth of knowledge and experience can provide expert knowledge to you that will guide you in developing a plan that will work best for you.

3. Stay on 1 and Stick with 2

Yes! Stay on the PATH and stick with the PLAN. A compound word for this statement I guess is, DISCIPLINE.

The real reason for most failures is lack of discipline to both stay on the path and stick with the plan. 

A lot of people start walking the path by following the plan, and soon they are bored. So they stop and then start seeking another path or a different plan. Unfortunately such action only leads to a repeated cycle of boredom.

You must give success time. 

Your path and plan doesn’t need to change because of one or two failures or difficulty here and there. You just need to improve on them through time as you gather more and more information and/or experience.

It may look like it’s taking longer than you’d expected. That’s when you have to exercise discipline. Just keep trusting the path and keep committing to the plan. You will rise up one day, look back and discover that you are nowhere near where you used to be. Instead you are somewhere very close to where you want to be.

So here’s the nugget of truth in a more refined state:

~ Know what you want

~ Have a (customized) plan

~ Stick to it (discipline)

The rest will just be history.

SELLING


FEW DAYS AGO I met with one of the folks under my tutelage. We had agreed to meet and discuss the sales strategies for her newly launched product.

I said to her, “From this point on you have moved from just being a product creator to a sales person. You must start seeing yourself as a sales person. Each morning as you rise from the bed, you must lean your head forward and ask yourself how do I get my product into the hands of my potential clients.”

Lets get something straight.

There’s a clear distinction between creating a product or service and selling. You sure must be familiar with this common submission; “good market sells itself.” 

Perish that!

The untold truth which is often bitter is the fact that no market, no matter how good, is capable of selling itself. 

To sell, you MUST strategically position your product in the marketplace. 

To sell, you MUST get out there and talk to people about your offering. 

To sell, you MUST be ready to put forward a number of phone calls to a targeted audience. 

To sell, you MUST learn the art of constantly pitching and promoting your offering. 

Otherwise, you will wake up one morning only to discover that the initial excitement that lased your soul as you were creating your offering has suddenly been overtaken by deep seated frustration.

Success in business is unaviodably tied to selling. More selling means more success for your business and vice versa.

Marketing is not selling. Period.

Although they are interrelated, both concepts are just as dissimilar in meaning as their spellings are.

This is where many of us get it wrong. We overly assume that marketing and selling are different ways of saying or doing the same thing. 

When you print and hand out leaflets and promotion cards to people, when you upload images of your offerings on the internet, be it Facebook, Instagram and other social media platforms, when you create pop-up windows on your blog to appear in the face of the visitors to your site, these are all marketing tools. And many at times these tools tend to become a distraction rather than an attraction.

I bet you will agree with me that not many people respond to those very often. Even you yourself don’t.

I recall vividly that not many people who saw and liked the ads of the pre-launch of my book eventually bought it. Some who even promised to buy the book once it hits the market are nowhere to be found.

Does this mean those are not potent practices. Not exactly. It only explains the fact that those are not what brings in the sales.

Selling is what happens behind the scenes, outside of the premises of the marketing tools. Following up a marketing brochure, the Facebook ads and so on with a phone call, an email, yet another phone call, and then a meeting – that’s selling.

Marketing is letting your potential customers know about your offering. Selling is showing them the value of your offering to the point where they pay you to get it.

If you want to bank on the ads to bring in sales, you will suffer heartbreaks. A facebook ad at most will capture the interest of your potential customers for a few seconds, if at all. 

To sell, you have to go the extra mile to engage and challenge them to think. You  have to give them the chance to try out your offering.

I wish to establish in this presentation what to me, are two golden rules to selling:

Rule # 1: Focus on a targeted audience

The second most important word after selling is targeting. Marketing is like throwing your net in the river. Anything can sieve into the net, small and large fish, crayfish, periwinkles, crabs, and even stones.

Selling is sorting out. It is separating the chaff from the wheat. You take the ones that are your targets, the rest you throw back into the river booked for the day when you will need them.

That’s how selling works. Focus on a targeted audience, those who desperately need your offering. Those who responded to that your Facebook ad either by liking or commenting. Follow them up. Pursue them with zest. Bombard them with mails and calls. If possible get them to have a one-on-one meeting with you.

Rule # 2: Focus on serving, not selling

One thing I’ve learned about the psychology of selling is to always put the true needs and concerns of my customers ahead of other things.

This can only mean two things: listening and asking questions. The trouble with selling is that while you are interested in convincing the customer to pay for your offering, you are more than anything else expected to ensure that your offering meets his/her very needs and concerns.

Don’t be quick to sell. Take time to listen and ask pertinent questions. Make sure your offering is what they truly need. If it’s not, don’t mince words, tell them outrightly. It may appear you’ve lost. But not so. By being honest about your offering you have bought not only bought the loyalty of that one customer but also that of every other person connected to him/her.

In simple terms, focus on serving, not selling. The secret of good sales practice is not getting the customer to buy. It is providing a useful service that meets the very needs and concerns of the customer. 

Keep these two rules eked out in your mind as you attempt to launch and sell your new product.

The Power of Failure…how to profit from failures

ARE YOU IN the league of folks who are afraid of failure?

Are you one out of the countless many who for the perceived shame and embarrassment often associated with failure have remained indifferent about taking worthwhile steps towards success?

Just a moment. Let’s talk about this thing called failure.

What’s failure? What’s your paradigm about the whole concept of failure? Is success really possible without failure? What about the fear of failure?

Let me begin by making this all important point: 

“One of the highest motivation for success is the fear of failure.”

Fear of failure is not a bad thing. In fact, it is one of the most powerful tools successful people leverage on to achieve uncommon success.

The fear of failure is not a problem per se. It is what you choose to do with it that counstitutes a major part of the problem.

The fear of failure is a valid tool designed to keep us from the thought of living average, mediocre lives. The persistent feeling or thought of the possibility of failure is programmed to motivate us out of our comfort zones. Unfortunately, in most cases the opposite is what happens because we fail to channel our fears in the right direction.

The one thing about successful people is not that they don’t have the fear of failure lurking around their minds. It is that they have trained their minds to turn every thought or fear of failure into a massive weapon to achieve the success they want.

To enter this league, you need to teach yourself how to do the conversion. Two things are what I wish to pound my hands on.

First is, REDEFINING FAILURE.

The primary reason we don’t profit from failures is because of the interpretation we give to it, or the basic understanding we have about it which is overly erroneous most of the times. 

This erroneous ideology about failure is more or less instigated by the society. The society where we live trains us to constantly see failure from the negative angle.

Nowhere is this paradigm more pronounced like the school system where the grading system is nothing more than a caste system.

The concept of failing in school and its perceived implications is the chief reason majority of us do not know how to profit from failure.

The key thing is to repeatedly see failure through a positive lens.

You see, the desire to succeed is the acceptance of the existence and possibility of failure. It is the realization that the equation of success is never complete without some kind of failure.

You can’t have a bold claim on success when you have not tasted failure firsthand. Failure is the proof of success.

Do you want to succeed? Then get ready to fail again and again. 

Am I attempting to promote failure, and probably give you a reason to become comfortable with your failures?

Not at all.

I’m only trying to lay out the facts on the table for us to behold. I’m only painting a picture of failure that would aid our interpretation of it in a way that would bring us the success we crave. The very one we deserve.

I’m only saying you should learn to factor in failure as part of the major process that leads to success. In fact, the quickest route to success is nothing more than failure. There’s indeed more to that but this is just a basic and indisputable reality.

You see, the business of building a profitable career around your deepest passion is not a bed of roses. It’s a journey that brings you face-to-face with unprecedented realities of failure.

This has been my experience for as long as I can recall.

To succeed in navigating the path and reaching your expectation, you must train your mind to always see failure as part of the whole process. Otherwise you ain’t ready yet for the greatness you say you desire.

The second thing that aids your ability to tap into the power of failure for conversion into a weapon for success is, REFINING FAILURE.

By this I mean, being able to extract useful information from your failures which you can leverage on to make better choices. 

For me, this is the game changer.

I see failure as a feedback mechanism in the wheel of success. It tells me one of two things or both: that there’s something I’m not doing or that there’s something I’m not doing right.

Your job in this context is to find out which it is so you can quickly pick up from where you left off.

Failure is like a parcel. It contains within it certain specifications necessary for your next move. It provides useful information for the next big thing on your path to success.

The time we spend brooding over our failures and getting unnecssarily embarrassed or depressed can be used differently – for learning purposes.

That’s the key. A learning attitude towards every failure you suffer is what refines and turns it into a rich commodity.

Failure has monetary value. There’s an unmined gold trapped within every failure.

What do I mean by this?

When you hear about people making 6 figures from books, online courses, consulting and the likes, what do you think it’s all about?

Obviously it’s all about profiting from their failures. Such products or services are nothing more than an attempt to bring to light the lessons learned from their failures to help others get the same or similar results they’ve succeeded in getting.

So aside utilizing the lessons we learn from our failures to arrive at our expectations, we can also utilise them to create valuable products / services that can aid other people in their own journeys. By so doing, we not only get the opportunity to help others but also to earn profitably in the process.

I hope you now see how it works. That there’s even huge financial benefits embedded in your failures. 

To distil it down, this then is the procedure:

1. See your failures through a positive lens.

2. Extract the lessons contained in your failures.

3. Convert the lessons into a process or system that can be replicated by others.

4. Package the process in the form of valuable products / services   

5. Start selling

Deconstructing Attitudes

WHEN I WAS a kid, I was angry about something which I can’t even recall right now. I was so angry that I shut everyone and everything out. 

In that state of anger and bitterness, I slept off only to wake up with a very high fever. I was so sick that even as a child I knew without being told that my emotional state brought it about. 

The Scripture do not let the sun go down on your anger is not so much about the issue of faith and religion. It’s about you. It’s about what it does to you.

You see, bad attitude is poisonous to the soul. Nothing kills faster than the feelings of bitterness and negativity. 

If you don’t mind let me take some space to provide a little insight on the scientific basis of the above ideology. I’m not a veteran in the field of sciences but at least I am a science student with a degree in biochemistry. Moreover, this might just be basic biology knowledge.

The body system is a fluid system. Most physiological activities that occur in the body happen via the secretion of “ductless” substances known as hormones. Ductless here implies that these substances do not flow through any channel to perform their functions. They are released directly into the bloodstream and straight on to their target organs or cells. Their release is triggered mostly by the activities that take place in the mind.

Bad attitude for example, triggers the release of a hormone, “cortisol” which is responsible for most heart problems, nervous breakdown, and cancer related diseases.

Here’s how it happens, when cortisol levels are high as a result of ill feelings, a nerve known as the vagus nerve stretches from the brain to the stomach and hits every organ in your body.

The vagus nerve supplies motor fibres to all the organs of the body, from the neck to the colon. And it also controls the function of some skeletal muscles.

The actions of this nerve is said to be responsible for all known diseases. 

The nerve gets inflamed when your cortisol levels are too high for too long which then cause damages to your organs.

For the vagus nerve to perform its normal functions, cortisol needs to be expunged from your system. And nothing does the job better than a positive attitude. 

Positive attitude triggers the release of another hormone, oxytocin commonly called the “god” or “feel-good” hormone This hormone deflects the inflammatory actions of the vagus nerve thereby providing health and stability to organ functions.

Shits happen in life, no doubt. And most of the times they are completely out of our control. 

The disappointments of life can cause you to see nothing but negativity in your future. You express despondency, belittle your potentials, disdain opportunities for personal growth, complain about the unfairness of life, and perhaps, conclude that nothing you do will ever make any difference in a particular situation.

Does this seem anything like the attitudes you find flowing through you most of the days?

If so, I have both good and bad news for you. 

The bad news is that with such attitude you are complicating and endangering your whole life. Just as I described early on, you are exposing yourself to high levels of (cortisol) which poisons your soul and body, and shortens your life span.

The good news however, is that you can decide what your attitude to every and any situation will be.

Attitudes are nothing more than habits of thought. Habits are acquired through repeated action. This simply means that you can develop a mental attitude that triggers the feel-good hormone as opposed to cortisol especially when shits happen in your life.  

If I have one goal each morning as I rise to meet the dawn, it is this one: To maintain a positive mindset. To smile generously into the free space. To cast off from my shoulders the weight of yesterday’s disappointments, failures, mistakes, and problems. 

There are a number of ways you can ensure to keep tabs on your attitude but I wish to suggest a few salient ones to you this morning.

1. Laughter: I’m currently working at something for myself. I want to train my mind to get to that point where it’s first response to a negative situation is laughter. To laugh out loud and with all my strength especially when there’s no logical reason to do so.  As we were told by scientists, “It takes more facial muscles to frown than to smile or laugh.”

2. Selfless Service: Providing a selfless service for someone or a group, especially those you are better than in some ways, creates an unusual positive feeling that keeps your oxytocin level on fire because it gives you a deep sense of worth and value. 

3. Early Morning Walk: I started doing this recently. Although I’ve been slacking. Taking a lone walk at the cool of the day, when nature is either too young or old, shoots positive feelings into your soul. An evening walk with a friend or lover can produce the same effect. 

4. Hugging: There’s something about hugs that is inexplicable, particularly when it involves people you love and care about. Although it can even be more powerful when it’s a stranger. The experience sends chills of ecstasy down my spine. Hug is interpreted as acceptance and care. And who doesn’t want those?

5. Deep Breathing: Remember those days in class when in between the lessons, especially when it seems the subject is too hard to assimilate, the teacher would ask us to stand up and take a long long deep breath before he continues with the class. I’ve always wondered how that changes anything. But the truth is, it does a lot. It brings with it a deep sense of relief and calmness that says; “relax, this is not something you can’t take care of.” 

6. Listening to Music: Lying down in bed listening to soothing music can create magical feelings within your soul. This is why women in labor are advised to listen to soothing music. I do this many of the times. Music is the new sexy. Not all of them though. There are all sorts of beats and lyrics out there parading themselves as good music. You should be wise enough to select the kinds that breed the positive feeling you need. The ones that get you pumped up.

By all means, keep tabs on your attitude.

Reinventing Yourself

YOU ARE A bundle of diversity. Your uniqueness as an entity is not just in the capabilities you possess but in your ability to continuously weave these capabilities together into newer ideas and creativity.

Life is an evolution journey. A journey whose purpose is to lead you into those terrains that would facilitate the eventful manifestation of the latest version of your unique identity and personality. 

Where you are now, what you are now, and what you are doing now, all are nothing compared to where you can be and/or what you can be and do.

The latest version of your real self, like a full grown baby in the womb,  is always kicking to be born. It’s always seeking to express itself to the world. 

Unfortunately, a number of factors keep suppressing it. And this suppression factors are usually responsible for the depression we tend to suffer as individuals.

Depression is simply the manifestation of suppressed self expression. When your true self is restricted from finding full expression, the direct consequence is a depressed condition characterized by loss of happiness and low morale.

In my own journey I’d observed  few of these suppression factors that generate human  depression, and which ultimately slows or shuts down completely the process that leads to the emergence of the latest version of our truest identity and personality.

Routine: being drenched in the practice of doing the same exact thing, the same exact way, every day, for a protracted period of time. 

Comfort zones: overly satisfaction with one’s present role and responsibilities to a point where the desire to grow and try out new things is completely drowned.

Blending: following the status quo in an attempt to be like everyone else, in order to fit into the system. Any emotional attachment (blending in) with existing social norms is a straight cut to loss of one’s individualism, as well as the capacity for personal evolution.

Procrastination: deliberately putting off key opportunities for gaining a new experience and better perspective. 

Excuses: a behaviour characterized by constantly seeking ways to justify  personal actions and/or inactions.  Rarely wanting to take responsibility for a situation, thereby not exercising one’s ability towards seeking for better options or different alternatives.

Two phrases is what I wish to use to provide some insights into this subject: “Let go” and “Stay true”.

1. Let go.

Yes, you must let go of the old before the new can come. 

If you keep clinging to what you are, if you remain put where you are, then the room for improvement and reinvention stays locked. You can’t expect to have a new experience when you are still trapped in the same old self and system.

Reinventing yourself is not a sprint race. It’s not even a marathon. It’s a relay race. It’s a journey where at every junction you must exercise the will to hand over the baton – to let the new you pick up from where the old you left off.

This requires openness and strong faith in the ability of this new you to lead you forward to another better version of your true self. You may not know how. That may not even be necessary. As long as the conviction is there, let go of the old show and enter into the new flow. 

2. Stay true

I mean stay true to yourself. 

I can’t tell you how much this really means. But I can assure you that if you are doing a good job of staying true to yourself at all times, you will have less traumatic periods than you are probably having right now. Your evolution as a complex specie will transcend times and seasons.

The problem of humanity today is that we are not being true to ourselves. We know the truth about us but we keep denying it. 

We know how unhappy we are doing what we are doing but we deny it. We know that current job or career isn’t provoking the best in us but we stay put, acting as though all is well.

No! All is not well. Accept the truth and align with it. 

Let me give you one more advice: Never you spend one single day engaged in something you aren’t feeling good about. That’s danger zone. Keep off!

Your evolution happens faster and more in the right direction when you make it a point of duty to stay within the boundaries of your passions. Any action to the contrary is trespassing and is inimical to your personal evolution.

You Need Boy Boy Job


I AM ONE of those who have a bad feeling about jobs. 

Apart from the feeling of losing the freedom for my time, I feel it’s foolhardy exhausting my strength on a job that doesn’t pay me what I’m worth.

I had a foretaste of what it feels like to be on a job, especially one that you have no interest in, and which pays you a meagre sum, during the compulsory 6 month industrial experience as an undergraduate.

After walking the streets of Enugu state for a month plus without getting a suitable place for attachment, I finally was received by a paint manufacturing industry.

My experience in that company is indescribable. I felt used. In fact I was used. I prayed for the six months to roll by as quickly as possible. I kept counting days. I dreaded waking up to see the dawn. I anticipated break hours. I wished for holidays. The situation almost cycloned my mind into a state of depression.

This partly contributed to why I didn’t feel like securing any company work after my service year. 

Statistics reveal that most people are not happy with their jobs. And that many workers in an organization wish they could break off and start their own stuff. 

The problem at times is, it’s not always easy to start. Starting means entering into the realm of unpredictability, not knowing where the next income would come from or making due with erratic paychecks  for a very long period of time, may be 5 years or more.

This week I started an internship with a company which would last for a period of time. I needed to gain some experience in the field.

Having being on the job for just 3 days, I can’t help but keep reading the faces of the employees. It is obvious a greater percentage do not have any forward projection. They are just in this job for as long as it lasts. If it goes down, they go down with it. Many seem to have future plans but had grown comfortable overtime with the paycheck and other income benefits.

While I’m not here to say you shouldn’t pick a job or you should resign from your current job, I wish to let you know that staying on a job indefinitely is a wrong move.

The employee-mentality is one of the worst enemy of human evolution. And let me quickly say that employee-mebtality is not necessarily about whether you are on a job or not. You can be on a job yet may not have an employee-mentality and vice versa.

The employee-mentality is a spirit.

When you are on a job without any exit plan, you are a serious candidate of this spirit.  When you are on a job and start getting comfortable with the paycheck, this spirit is at work. When you are laid off from a job of five years plus and you are busy seeking for nothing more than a new job, you are a slave to this spirit.

The average human was not born to be an employee. Unfortunately this is what we are taught in school. 

I remember the days gone by when if you hear that a classmate of yours dropped out of school to go do boy boy job, you privately start feeling pity for him while thinking of yourself who is still in school as the lucky chap.

This seems to be a correct judgment until after a while when you are faced with the reality of life.

As local as boy boy job may sound, it represents the best structure of a life work pattern. The idea of boy boy which in a more refined launguage refers to “apprenticeship” is, to me, the only true purpose of job-seeking.

Apprenticeship is designed to keep the apprentice under a master in a particular area of practical knowledge for a specified space of time within which the apprentice is expected to learn and integrate core skills that would qualify him / her to kick-start his / her own journey of independence.

You don’t find a job to stay in it. You find a job to learn some vital skills for self dependence. This is why you must define the job you are taking in terms of purpose and duration. 

What are you? An employee or an apprentice?

Are you on the job to earn and stay on? Or are you on the job to learn and move on? 

Whichever is your answer is what defines whether you are an employee or an apprentice. That’s what decides whether you have an employee-mentality or not. That’s what determines how you interpret a job loss. That’s what tells how far you can go in your career / life work.

You sure need a boy boy job!!!