Do you still remember the old nursery rhyme often used to mock a baby that’s always prone to crying.
It goes like this: “Cry cry baby. Why are you crying? You want to see your mummy. Shame!
As much as this rhyme is geared towards dissuading a child who resorts to crying for getting any and every of his / her expectations met, there are lessons from a crying baby that can be applied in real life situations.
Have you noticed that no-one teaches a baby how to cry? Among everything a baby learns or is taught, crying is never part of the curriculum because the child is already an expert at it. Coming from the womb, the baby is fully armed with nothing else but the power to cry.
The question is “why cry?” Why can’t the baby be smiling at birth or better still, laughing?
Throughout the period of nurturing and caring for a baby, it cries more than anything else. And as it does cry, everyone around has got no option than to revert attention from everything else to respond to its cry.
If there’s anything everyone is uncomfortable with, it’s the sound of a baby crying. Even when you don’t care for the baby, you can’t stand the cry of that baby. You would want to do something even if for once, to get the baby to stop.
Time passes and the baby observes how powerful its ability to cry can be. It senses that the world around it literally comes to a halt once it is doing what it knows best to do – crying. It quickly realizes that crying is the only language that draws attention towards it.
This realization eventually becomes the basis for persistence in crying. As it cries with no positive response coming forth, it cries even harder, changing gear intermittently until finally, the result comes.
However, as the baby grows up and moves towards adolescence, it begins to learn a major lesson, that crying like it used to do is not the key to life. This new realization comes the very day he / she cried and was probably spanked or mocked or scolded or even completely ignored.
This new experience shatters the child’s former concept in a very traumatic manner. It leaves him wondering aloud what has happened. “Why am I not getting results again as I used to each time I cried? Why has the world around me suddenly turned against me?”
The final outcome of this whole experience is that the child gradually begins to detach from crying as he used to. He begins to learn how to make requests and negotiate his way into getting what he wants.
This continues to happen up to the point that crying starts becoming an embarrassment. The very person who would before cry nonstop starts finding it embarrassing to cry.
The question at this point is: What has changed?
Certainly it is a change in perspective that has occurred. However, in my own view, the child still cries but in a different language.
Practically everything we want in life can only be delivered to us through “crying”.
Crying is not just an action. It’s a language of expression used to call attention towards our uttermost desires and goals.
As we grow and go through life, we don’t stop crying. We only change our pattern of crying. Everybody still cries.
To close a deal, the business man cries in the language of business. To marry that beautiful damsel, the guy cries in the language of love. To attract investors to invest in a venture, the entrepreneur cries in the language of investment.
Indeed all actions we take towards achieving the things we want in life can be termed as “crying”. As such, crying from birth is a way of teaching us that life does not always give us what we DESERVE but what we DEMAND.
In this sense, if you really want something, you have to be mad enough to “cry” hard in a language that will cause what you seek to be delivered into your hands.
Crying is not the key to life. But crying in a language in which what you seek can understand is what opens every door you want to get opened.
The secret to life therefore, is to learn the language of communication that whatever you seek responds to. Cry diligently in that language as a baby would do. And it’s only a matter of time before what you seek becomes yours.
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